Dating at 30

I am a 30 year old female. I am average looking, with brown hair and eyes. I am taller than most women (6’1) and I am 180lbs. I do have a belly and some meat to my bones but I am very athletic, in fact my job is in athletics. I know these stats realistically shouldn’t matter, and the right person will find me attractive regardless, but part of me thinks that’s wishful thinking. So I’ve included my height and weight because I do think it factors in here. I have never had a real relationship. I have had hookups, a few situationships, the longest one being 9 months and I felt devastated when it ended. I am healed now but we ended things when I was 27 and I am now 30. I haven’t had a situationship or even really talked to someone consistently in 3 years. I give this backstory for a few reasons, mainly being, to point out, I have never really known what to look for in dating. Trying to date now that I am comfortable putting myself back out there, feels like an impossible task. It seems like every person interested in me lacks substance and the ability to banter. When I do find someone who is interested in me, they are usually younger and/or only interested in getting me into the bedroom. The latter being most common but I don’t feel too bad, I know this is fairly common. The issue I am experiencing most and I guess seeking advice on is, the guys I am actually interested in are the ones who ghost. Does anyone know why? Am I showing too much interest in these men? I am usually more attracted to the persons personality more than I am looks, and the guys who I can have interesting conversations with and banter with always end up just up and disappearing. I keep asking myself what is wrong with me? Is it my height? My weight? My age? Is it that I go too far with the bantering? Is my personality too much? I’m not asking these men for marriage just conversation and I feel like I’m doing even that wrong. Does anyone have any advice or perspective on this? Because all I can keep thinking I am the problem 24/7. (Side note; sorry for the messy composition of this post. I know I could’ve written it better, but I hope my main point makes sense.) submitted by /u/CryptographerAny1437 [link] [comments]