It’s possible to turn around and have success within 24 hours. By tomorrow you CAN have success even after weeks or months or potentially years of a drought. (Motivation from recent experience).

Here’s my recent story. Before last night I was on a like couple month drought. And the last interaction wasn’t even a great one before the drought. I felt unconfident.

Friday night I went out, walked around with the intention of meeting women. I socially drink and I spend money on the cover to get into clubs sometimes. I don’t always do this, but this is certainly something I am not afraid to do.

But Friday I was afraid to do that. I hadn’t gone out in a while, I was scared to use any “help”. I wanted to hit a home run (walk up to girl while sober, sweep her off her feet and smash). But I didn’t understand all the barriers there. It’s HARD to just do that. that’s not even a me thing. It’s just simply hard to do, that’s lowkey while we’re all here. It’s HARD! It’s RARE for that to happen. Sober? More nerves. Random girl outside? Less likely to be looking for a guy. Even a new bar, less likely for me to feel comfortable. Etc etc etc.

However Friday night i was so scared of failure that I ended up sitting on the curb contemplating life and ended up crying before i even talked to any girl. Someone saw me and picked me up for a minute and made me feel better. People are nice like that. I went into the club and decided “I don’t want to drink, I want to do it without help. I didn’t even want to pay the cover.” as i originally wanted to do it outside. Basically, I wasn’t accepting my decisions in those moments. I was insecure about my decisions.

My point is that I wasn’t using my self accepted tools. A painter uses a paint brush. If his brush breaks, he buys a new one. He puts his canvas on a stand to make it easier to paint. He doesn’t NEED a stand, but it makes it easier. If he’s feeling ballsy, he may remove the stand, but in general he wants to be comfortable, he’ll produce his best work that way.

Anyways I went into the club still nervous and bombed horribly. No numbers, no conversations with girls, just walked around for two hours sober.

I didn’t use my personality that night. I didn’t use my voice that night. I didn’t use my dance moves or my ability to buy and sip alcohol either. I was scared.

Fast forward to the next day, and I decided to use all my tools in my tool box. I got a drink before I walked into my favorite club. I talked to guys while in line. I made friends. I got inside and looked at all the cute girls and realized there’s A LOT of them. If I fail with one, there’s PLENTY MORE. And I did fail. I danced with a girl, and I told her “I usually don’t go for thicc girls like you.”

She felt offended and left quickly. Oh well I said, there’s more girls!

I danced with more. I held their hands and spun them around and slapped their asses when they twerked. I used my tools as a man to be more attractive. I used my voice to speak words to these beautiful women.

Eventually I meet a group and say “hey hi which one of you three is the single one?”

“We all are” they say. Jackpot.

Talk to them and see which of the three is feeling me. I smile, take her hand, offer a dance, walk her around the club to get some privacy, and spend 2 hours chatting her up and kissing her and even talking about her friend’s problems and her future goals. I buy her a few drinks. She invites me back to her place. She tells me we will not have sex because she wants her partners to be tested and whatnot. Makes sense to me, but we rest and cuddle all night. She’s a shy girl, so I use my brain to realize she might just be lonely and is a tender soul who simply respects her sexual health. It was absolutely worth the effort.

True story. I don’t know if we’ll have sex. I don’t know if we’ll see each other. Who knows. But, as you can see, 24 hours is more than enough to turn around your life and find success.

use your tools!!!! Not using them is limiting your ability to succeed.

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